Archive for October, 2005

God’s greatest creation

A touching video…shows how great love can be (watch until the end then u will know what i mean)

Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud
Love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritate
Love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs
Love is not happy with evil but is happy with truth
Love never gives up; and its faith, hope and patience never fails

Fury?? –Part II (solved)

I need someone to talk to, but who?

*Me. You always have me. Just let me know when u need
someone to talk to.

I need someone to lean on to, but who?

*Me. You always have me to lean to. I know I cannot be
there physically for you. But my mental support is
always with you. My prayers are always with you. Just
do not hesitate to let me know…..

My needs, your needs, our needs
It’s all there
But there is always a question mark at the end of the
day

*We can explore the question mark together. Maybe when
you’re alone, the question mark won’t disappear, but
when we’re together, the solution can find its way to
us. Just do not be afraid to face the question mark. I
am always there to face it with you….to hold your
hand, and take baby steps…to support you when you
fall, to be your light when there is darkness, to be
your assuarance when in doubt, to be your inspiration
when your spirit meets a dead end…

A smile on a face never show what is happening inside,

*Someone who loves you can tell what’s happening not
from your smile but from your eyes. the eye is the
window to your soul…

A frown that you see would never reveal the sadness
that resides,

*Someone who cares for you would feel sad with just a
frown, and will find out what is wrong to share your
burden. You just have to be willing to share it….the
unrevealled sadness will mirror itself in that someone
the same way it resides in you if you do not let it
out…

The thought of having something sometimes sent a
relief to the soul,

*The thought of love can send more joy than a relief
to the soul….the thought of hope gives motivation to
life…the thought of charity enriches your life to
the full…

Somehow it may be lost and can be a mystery left
unsolved.

*Love can be found, even when it’s lost. Love will
find a way, when there seems to be no way…with faith
and strength, for each new day, love will find a
way…

The pain is there,
killing me slowly from within

*Others felt your pain, just by reading what you
write. Though you may think no one cares the same, you
are more wrong than right…

Trapped in a place where everything seems out of
reach,

*When you’re trapped, others have the opportunity to
search for you, to free you, to know what you’re going
through…everything happens for a reason, every event
has a season…

Denial and ignorance keep me from suffering;

*Denial and ignorance keep you from suffering, but
they are the ones who actually continue to cause
suffering….acceptance and acknowledgment brings you
face to face with suffering, as well as hope that it
will be over sooner than later….

Trying to live in a euphoric world
which rather only a fantasy that I can never live.

*Reality is nearer than you think. All you need is
love…all you need is love…all you need is
love…have faith and trust…let me share your
burden…my hands are stretched out, just grab it and
take heart….let me carry the weight upon your
shoulders, because no man is an island…i know i’m
not perfect, i know it’s beyond my abilities, but i
want to walk your footsteps, i want to fit mine into
yours, i want to carry you, so that our footprints
point to the same direction, so that when you look
back, you know that you’re not alone….never alone…

->I was blessed to have u in changing my life.

I WANT TO BE HAPPY…how about you?

>A positive self-image: You need to accept and like yourself as a person. It is important to accept both your good and bad parts, and to be OK with who you are until you can achieve the desired changes in yourself.

>A sense of control: You must believe that you have ultimate control over your life. You have accepted and are OK with the reality that people are going to do what they are going to do what they are going to do, not what you think they should do. While you are absolutely powerless to change others, you are absolutely powerful to change yourself [as you change yourself, what usually happens is that those around you will also change}.

>Optimism: You expect to succeed at what you do. You are surprised if something doesn’t work out. You accept delayed gratification as part of what it takes to be successful. It is OK not to be perfect. You believe that nothing is a failure if you learn from it. “Failure just proves that I am human.”

>Extroversion: Whether alone or with others, you are outgoing and happier than your shyer counterparts, the introverts. You may have fear and anxiety when with others, but you don’t let those feelings control you. Your fears do not make you an introvert. It is your behavior that makes you an introvert.

>Adaptability: You have the ability to adapt to changing circumstances. You see changes in your job, relationships, and the nation as opportunities, not as threats. Change gives you the chance to think new thoughts, to try out new ideas.

>A Positive Wold Outlook: You have a view of the world as benevolent and controllable. You see the world as being basically a safe place, and most people as wanting to be helpful. Sure, bad things happen, but if and when they do, you are OK and able to handle them. This is not the “truth” that many of us knew as children.

>Purpose: You have a sense of purpose. You have values and purposes that guide you in making decisions and provide you with a sense of direction. You have attainable goals and know the steps you will take to achieve them. You see your life as having meaning and purpose.

>Immediacy: You live in the here and now. You don’t worry about the future, what “might” happen, or dwell in the past. You trust yourself that whatever happens, you will be able to handle it. You avoid “I should have, could have…,” or looking for something or somebody to make you happy. “If only I had (more money, a better job, good looks, a better figure, someone who loves me), I would be happy.” You focus on what you can do now and on the question, “Is what I’m doing getting me what I want in the long run?”

“He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.” Socrates 399BC

The more you hold these beliefs about yourself and your world, the more you will create the fruit of happiness. Changing your old beliefs requires looking at when and where you learn these negative beliefs. You need to accept that these beliefs may have been “true” and helped you survive when you were a child, but today they are no longer true for you as an adult. All of your beliefs were learned, and what is learned can be unlearned. However, changing your beliefs is not easy.

Acknowledge + accept + change + be in control

As changing beliefs is not easy for me either, I am thankful to God for showing me the right path that I should take to make my life better. I am grateful for all the blessings especially the gift of someone who is always there for me ; loving unconditionally and supportive all the time. That is one of the reason that my life is worth living.

As friendly as the stars

“As friendly as the stars”….do u think stars are friendly?…huh.* Wat a statement. Its not from me though. I saw this on the lorry of SEC electricare. Their motto I guess. Some how, it really struck me…stars and friendly. Does it come together? Erks…no idea on that.

U might be wondering how can I be analyzing this one sentence-on a lorry summore…(if there is somebody who bother to read this blog anyway).This is wat I did when I was sitting alone in McD, at one quiet corner, which somehow made me look so pathetic…alone…and lonely I am. There was me…savoring my dinner…alone…again.

Actually I was not that alone anyway, seeing the outlet was full of people. Some of them were breaking their fast. Hungrily eating their meal, where somehow they will be sitting in groups or at least in pairs. Families with children still clad in school uniform and they were eating happily while sharing their stories of the day. I wish my days in school was like that…which then McD was a luxury item especially in Sabah when the first oulet was introduced during…ermm..can’t remember wat year…but for sure it was later than KFC. Seeing all those happy families and happy people made me miss home so much. Somehow things aren’t as beautiful in everyone’s life. The communication gap that I felt…is growing wider and wider each day. Maybe everybody is changing somehow unity in family should be there. I miss those days where I can talk about anything…I miss those days when I was being asked how was my day…I miss those days when everything is so simple because I was still a little girl. Well, there’s no point of missing those moments anyway cos it will never come back.

And so was I, eating but not enjoying my meal. I think this is what people said that it is not good to eat because u r stressed. Well, who cares anyway…There was me- eating and listening to my walkman…huh? Walkman…so pathetic…again. I guess ppl must b wondering why am I still using a walkman where now ppl are using Ipods or MP3 player…btw, IPods and MP3 player tu sama ka?..hua hua hua…pathetic Joan…u r so not in this era. Well, what to do…I am totally not into these 21st century gadgets stuff. It is still considered lucky that I am using a walkman not a gramophone…haha. Back to the part where I was eating. I sat at one corner but was facing the outside…as it was all glass all around- I can see the outside clearly. Somehow its rather those ppl outside can see me clearly. Every soul that pass by McD will be staring inside…I dunno la y ppl like to do that but it made me feel like I am an exhibition item inside. Erks….hate that! But, what the heck…those are merely eyeballs that has nothing to do with me anyway. Stuck in my own little world with a pair of earphones stuck to my ears, I finished my meal in the shortest ever time…(in my personal record la). Well it is quite an achievement considering the past few days which had been so…*dunno wat pathetic word to use to describe that.

Hmm…this must be another typical blog where all the pathetic thoughts will be here. Somehow who asked u to read this anyway if there’s no point of appreciating this… ;p

Nothing Important

Truly there is nothing important.Just want to kill time here by typing something for my blog.Another slow day for me,which I think does not suppose to happen because there is actually a lot of things to do.A lot and I mean really a lot.Somehow, if your mind and soul are not into it, you might just end up wasting time at the end of the day.Hmm..some more I miss Shampoo Boi.

The dark clouds are grouping up,gathering themselves before it started to pour gallons of water to the earth later.Cloudy,slow,quiet..a perfect situation for me to sleep.Why should it be raining everyday?Monsoon change i guess.Well,one thing for sure have to appreciate it.If it is not raining then I’ll be grumbling about the intense heat baking us here on earth.